One characteristic flaw
of humankind is our tendency to take a lot of things for granted especially
regarding the cycles of life. We typically assume that once a child is born,
she will grow up sane and strong, attend school and graduate, get a good job
and then marry and start her own family, then she’ll succeed in her career,
grow old and eventually die at a ripe old age. This repetitive nature of
certain events of this life is well documented by The Teacher in the book of Ecclesiastes who laments the utter futility
of these cycles. They are all vanities he says.
Reality however has a
way of yanking us out of this enshrined orientation of taking things for granted
by the many failures and disappointments we encounter as we age. Yet, our grief
from these heartbreaks could have probably been rendered more bearable had we
be somewhat open-minded about life’s uncertainties.
The late author Herbert
Vander Lugt in this short book, The Art
of Growing Old, shares his experiences and that of other senior citizens on
some of the possible pitfalls of old age and offers sound advice on how to deal
with them. He notes an unfortunate pattern among many people especially those
in their late forties and early fifties who are often forced to brood over the
implications of their personal mortalities only when tragedies strike. He observes
that, “the awareness of life’s brevity may come with a jolt when a person finds
out he has high blood pressure or other physical problems that are usually associated
with aging,” which statements rings too true!
The author observes
that, many intentionally avoid discussing and planning for their old age
because such inevitably must include debilitation and death, which themes are
deemed too morbid and depressing, yet this ought not to be the case especially for
the Christian. He asserts that “a Christian who properly faces the reality of
departing this life, acknowledging it openly and cheerfully will not get sour
on life or develop a fixation on death and dying.” Christians ought to be
confident that when they depart this life, they are going to be with their
Lord.
Even though death preoccupies
the thinking and planning for old age, it’s not all about it. There are many
positive benefits to growing old. Freed from the pressure of making a living or
raising a family, we can use much of this time for personal growth and
spiritual impact. For instance, the author shares the story of a man he personally
knew whose joy seemed to abound after retiring because now, he had ample time
to embark on evangelism and other missionary works. Apart from this, old age
also affords one the quality time to spend with one’s grandchildren(kids always
love their grandparents), ample time to volunteer for and support worthy causes,
to coach and counsel young ones in their life decisions and so on.
As a relatively young
person, I found The Art of Growing Old
very helpful as I was opened to certain realities of life in a fresh way by the
author’s measured tone in dealing with this topic which inspired in me a much
welcomed sober cogitation.
I agree with Herbert
Vander Lugt when he says that old age “can be happy and useful if we plan for
the adjustments it will demand and utilize its new opportunities to glorify
God.” Do give this book a read if you do come across it!